The ABCs of Our Thinking
- Herman Veitch
- Apr 25
- 2 min read
Updated: May 20
Rewriting the Stories We Tell Ourselves
Introduction
Ever wonder why two people can experience the same event but react in completely different ways? One sees opportunity, the other sees disaster. The difference often comes down to their beliefs. According to psychologist Albert Ellis, our emotions aren’t caused by events themselves but by how we interpret them. His ABC Model is a powerful tool for understanding and reshaping our emotional responses, helping us move from automatic reactions to intentional growth.
Breaking Down the ABC Model
The ABC Model consists of three key elements:
A - Activating Event: This situation triggers an emotional response.
B – Belief: The thoughts and interpretations we attach to the event.
C – Consequence: The emotional and behavioural outcome is shaped by our beliefs.
For example, imagine you get critical feedback at work. If your belief is, “I’m not good enough,” the consequence might be anxiety or avoidance. But if you believe, “This is a chance to improve,” you might feel motivated instead.
Challenging and Changing Unhelpful Beliefs
To shift from self-defeating thoughts to empowering ones, try these steps:
Identify the belief – What are you telling yourself about the event?
Question its validity – Is it based on facts or assumptions?
Replace it with a balanced belief – Choose a perspective that serves you better.
Conclusion
Understanding the ABC Model puts you in the driver’s seat of your emotions. By challenging limiting beliefs, you create space for resilience, confidence, and growth.
Ready to take control of your inner dialogue? Dive deeper into this topic in my book and course, Getting Up Again, and Other Stories We Tell Ourselves About Being Strong.
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